Taken from the beautiful Bri's blog: Just Call Me Bri
Guy: So If you don't mind me asking why is a pretty girl like yourself single?
Me: -DEEP SIGH-
Because I enjoy being alone.
I don't have to check in with anyone.
I've been single for a year and I have grown so much, I can't do MY thing with someone attached to me.
I like being able to do what I want to.
A relationship takes so much energy and that's energy that I don't have right now.
....and lastly instead of chasing YOU I am too busy chasing MY dreams. I know where I am going, I don't need any distractions and the RIGHT guy will appreciate that.
"The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well that's just fabulous." - Carrie Bradshaw
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Amen!
Friday, October 29, 2010
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Do the math
I am torn right now over switching phone contracts. Or rather, ending my current contract with T-Mobile and going to pre-paid or month-to-month payments.
I currently pay $76/mo
Since Joplin canceled her contract (we had a family plan) I will pay $85/mo as of November.
Breaking my contract will cost $200. The contract ends Feb. of 2012. If I continue to pay my contract out until then, I'll end up spending $1190. I'll take the $200 hit.
If I switch to Virgin Mobile, where I can have either a Blackberry or an Android phone and unlimited text, web and email, I will pay $35/mo - BUT I will have to shell out about $200 for a new phone (since they dont use SIM cards).
Virgin mobile total amount of switch: $400
I could go to Cricket Wireless for $55/mo where I could also have a Blackberry or Android phone w/ unlimited talk, text, web, email, etc. They cost more a month but they are having a sale on their android phones for $175. If I sell my blackberry for $120, that's $50 out of pocket for a new phone.
Cricket Wireless total amount of switch: $250
Last but not least, there is the Wal-Mart Family Plan. Unfortunately it's not available in all Wal-Marts and I haven't been able to find out if it's available in OKC yet. It's $45/mo, plus you just pop in their new sim card in your current phone.
Wal-Mart Family Plan total amount of switch: $200
So obviously the Wal-Mart plan is the cheapest but I'm doubting it's available in OKC. Cricket wireless is the second best bet with cheapest upfront cost but $10/mo more than Virgin Mobile.
It's really just a matter of time for me to save up a minimum of $200 and make the switch. I just needed to do the math somewhere other than my head to work it all out!
I currently pay $76/mo
Since Joplin canceled her contract (we had a family plan) I will pay $85/mo as of November.
Breaking my contract will cost $200. The contract ends Feb. of 2012. If I continue to pay my contract out until then, I'll end up spending $1190. I'll take the $200 hit.
If I switch to Virgin Mobile, where I can have either a Blackberry or an Android phone and unlimited text, web and email, I will pay $35/mo - BUT I will have to shell out about $200 for a new phone (since they dont use SIM cards).
Virgin mobile total amount of switch: $400
I could go to Cricket Wireless for $55/mo where I could also have a Blackberry or Android phone w/ unlimited talk, text, web, email, etc. They cost more a month but they are having a sale on their android phones for $175. If I sell my blackberry for $120, that's $50 out of pocket for a new phone.
Cricket Wireless total amount of switch: $250
Last but not least, there is the Wal-Mart Family Plan. Unfortunately it's not available in all Wal-Marts and I haven't been able to find out if it's available in OKC yet. It's $45/mo, plus you just pop in their new sim card in your current phone.
Wal-Mart Family Plan total amount of switch: $200
So obviously the Wal-Mart plan is the cheapest but I'm doubting it's available in OKC. Cricket wireless is the second best bet with cheapest upfront cost but $10/mo more than Virgin Mobile.
It's really just a matter of time for me to save up a minimum of $200 and make the switch. I just needed to do the math somewhere other than my head to work it all out!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
The path less traveled
I officially switched my major to Liberal Studies yesterday. Its not too earth shattering, I can change it again at any time, but that I've finally allowed myself to accept that this is what I want is a big step.
Around this time last year, I sat around with a group of friends and announced I wanted to change my major to Liberal Studies. The response was less than encouraging. "You'll never get hired," "no one will take you seriously," and similar remarks. I expected this, I will expect it for the rest of my life. But I have spent the last 3 years going back and forth with degrees I know won't work for me, trying to fit into corporate America's mold for an ideal employee.
Yes, I wanted to be an anthropologist. And a historian. And a social worker. And a teacher. And a mortician. And a non-profit community organizer. I really did.
But those are interests. I have a bajillion of them, just waiting to be explored. The true question I need to ask myself is: Can I make a career out of this?
Okay, technically I am physically able to make a career out of just about anything. I'm talking life-long fulfillment, service to the community and financial stability. The above career options fulfill one or two of these requirements but not all, and it would leave me feeling like I needed something more if I were to settle with those.
A degree in Liberal Studies may not land me a degree at an accounting firm or as a paralegal, but it WILL allow me to study the way I know is best for me and will eventually lead me to my ideal life.
Ah, my ideal life. It appears to change with the wind but in my heart of hearts lies one unchanging aspect: a farm.
Having a farm is vital to my happiness. Having a small amount of livestock that feed me and my neighbors (through comraderie or a neighborhood market) as well as land to sustain myself on is a key component to what I feel I need. I can't explain it other than I need to be closer to the land.
I feel that if I can have a farm, a small farm, then my career will follow suit. I need a career that is just as beneficial to nature, humans and myself as a farm. I need a job that helps me lead a compassionate, joyful life. I do not want the stress of crunching numbers, sales, leads or quotas. Something whole and natural.
The option of becoming a doula has occured to me lately and thanks to the wonderful encouragement of a close friend I am seriously considering this path. I would be helping women enjoy their pregnancies and births to their fullest while also getting the rare and beautiful chance to witness a child being brought into the world. There is nothing morally challenging to me about being a Doula, which is why it sits so well with me. If I lose any sleep as a doula, it will because of excitement and anticipation, and occasionally because something is going wrong, not because I am going against my instincts or I'm being forced by management into an uncompromising position. I feel I could live in peace and contentment as a doula.
Another benefit to becoming a doula would be that I would forever have the opportunity to further my education and become a child birth educator or even a midwife.
Nothing is solid yet - but it never should be with me. I am too ambitious and anxious to be locked in to one path in life. That's precisely why I feel so comfortable with Liberal Studies as my major. It gives me the wiggle room I need to grow and learn and change the way I need to.
I am happy with my decision.
Around this time last year, I sat around with a group of friends and announced I wanted to change my major to Liberal Studies. The response was less than encouraging. "You'll never get hired," "no one will take you seriously," and similar remarks. I expected this, I will expect it for the rest of my life. But I have spent the last 3 years going back and forth with degrees I know won't work for me, trying to fit into corporate America's mold for an ideal employee.
Yes, I wanted to be an anthropologist. And a historian. And a social worker. And a teacher. And a mortician. And a non-profit community organizer. I really did.
But those are interests. I have a bajillion of them, just waiting to be explored. The true question I need to ask myself is: Can I make a career out of this?
Okay, technically I am physically able to make a career out of just about anything. I'm talking life-long fulfillment, service to the community and financial stability. The above career options fulfill one or two of these requirements but not all, and it would leave me feeling like I needed something more if I were to settle with those.
A degree in Liberal Studies may not land me a degree at an accounting firm or as a paralegal, but it WILL allow me to study the way I know is best for me and will eventually lead me to my ideal life.
Ah, my ideal life. It appears to change with the wind but in my heart of hearts lies one unchanging aspect: a farm.
Having a farm is vital to my happiness. Having a small amount of livestock that feed me and my neighbors (through comraderie or a neighborhood market) as well as land to sustain myself on is a key component to what I feel I need. I can't explain it other than I need to be closer to the land.
I feel that if I can have a farm, a small farm, then my career will follow suit. I need a career that is just as beneficial to nature, humans and myself as a farm. I need a job that helps me lead a compassionate, joyful life. I do not want the stress of crunching numbers, sales, leads or quotas. Something whole and natural.
The option of becoming a doula has occured to me lately and thanks to the wonderful encouragement of a close friend I am seriously considering this path. I would be helping women enjoy their pregnancies and births to their fullest while also getting the rare and beautiful chance to witness a child being brought into the world. There is nothing morally challenging to me about being a Doula, which is why it sits so well with me. If I lose any sleep as a doula, it will because of excitement and anticipation, and occasionally because something is going wrong, not because I am going against my instincts or I'm being forced by management into an uncompromising position. I feel I could live in peace and contentment as a doula.
Another benefit to becoming a doula would be that I would forever have the opportunity to further my education and become a child birth educator or even a midwife.
Nothing is solid yet - but it never should be with me. I am too ambitious and anxious to be locked in to one path in life. That's precisely why I feel so comfortable with Liberal Studies as my major. It gives me the wiggle room I need to grow and learn and change the way I need to.
I am happy with my decision.
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